BEFORE SIGNING UP: LOOK INWARD/QUESTION YOURSELF/KNOW YOURSELF  

__ Look at past personal choices have made and ask which were healthy, which  were not.  

__ Consider dating or life coach or very objective friend  

__ Differentiate a list of those things you are looking for in a person that are 1) Non negotiable and 2) More flexible on  

__ 1) Who you are? 2) Where you are in life? and 3) What looking for?  

BY EXAMPLE: WHAT LOOKING FOR  

__ To state the obvious, in looking at a divorced man, wish to ensure he is very  family oriented with his own children. If is not, how do you expect him to be with  your child/children?  

BEFORE SIGNING UP: BIG PICTURE 

__ Online dating is not the panacea to all the challenges of Jewish dating, but it is a  uniquely medium to meet and marry  

__ Especially for woman/ single mothers…see later in “Initiating”  

__ We always encourage members to utilize many diverse means in dating 

__ Not to put ‘all your eggs in one basket’ as it were  

SIGN-UP AND CREATING A PROFILE  

__ Many people spend more time deciding what color socks to purchase than  putting their online dating profile together 

__ Understand that as a single, as a single mother YOU ARE A MARKATEER, like it  or not! 

__ You need to put your best forward – which is a combination of a meaningful  profile description and divers selection of photos

PHOTOS ONLINE  

__ The fact is that 85% of profiles without photos are simply ignored 

__ At JWed, we do provide the “Private Photo” option  

COMMON SENSIBILTIES  

- Utilize the same common sensibilities of offline dating to online dating  - One step at a time, don’t let emotions get better of you, do necessary reference  checks etc  

- Online dating is especially powerful in suddenly have such a ‘choice’ as it were,  but take it slowly  

- Don’t engage with so many at one time. Take each exchange seriously.  - Be flexible where necessary with age, geography even hashkafa at times  - Your focus is on middot, character etc, less what type kippa, that lives down the  road  

- Your bashert may be 10,000 miles away. Hashem makes it easier today to  connect.  

YOUR PERSONAL LIFE STORY  

__ When meet someone don’t tell them you’ll whole life story in one sitting 

__ We all have “baggage’ /challenges we bring to a relationship  

__ Give relationship some potential/growth before you detail certain/particular  circumstances about by example the divorce, children etc. 

INITIATE, TAKE THE LEAD  

__ Over 65% of JWed's 3,600+ marriages were initiated by women! 

__ In our "traditional" Jewish dating world, and certainly the frum world, it is often the  woman who finds herself playing second-fiddle as it were, waiting for the phone  to ring.  

__ JWed empowers Jewish singles - especially women - to take charge and to take  the lead in their dating life.  

GEOGRAPHY  

__ A significant majority of JWed's over 3,600 marriages took place between  members who were out of city/state and even country.  

__ JWed enables single and sincere marriage-minded Jews - whether from a major  metropolitan city or from a small town - to meet one another, like never before. 

__ While of course geography is important, we always encourage members to  search way beyond their immediate location - where character, shared life goals, 

personality and other virtues, are so often far more important, than simple  location.  

__ If two people meet and find so much in common, both current and their plans for  the future - geography, however challenging, can be overcome. We see it in over  3,500 married and averaging 8 marriages a month!